Woman Bonding

In a recent episode of Private Practice, Cooper finds Violet and Charlotte (who hate each other) painting each other's nails and telling secrets about him. They have come together and gotten close because he asked them to since Violet is his best friend and Charlotte is his girlfriend. He says, "My girlfriend life and my best friend life are colliding in a womanly woman fest of nail polish and bonding. You know what, I'm gonna go drink with guys." He rushes out of the room saying "one woman at a time".

Cooper does not want to be associated with hanging out with women and painting nails and decides to go out and drink with his buddies because that is a manly thing to do. He doesn't want to be around for "womanly bonding" because if he did it would take away some of his masculinity. By saying that he is going to go drink with his friends, he is saying that it is not manly for guys to hang out with girls painting nails. When he says "one woman at a time", he is saying that he can't handle both of them together because he is used to dealing with them separately.

On Samantha Who?, a similar thing happens. Samantha asks a guy why his friend keeps canceling dates on her friend. She asks him if he is afraid of commitment. The guy says, "Well I don't know, I'll ask him about his feelings next time we get our nails done". This sends the message that guys typically do not like to talk and get their feelings out and if they are do, they are considered feminine. 

Joey is turning into a woman

There are so many funny messages about gender on Friends. In one episode, Joey's new roommate decorates the apartment with little objects and flowers. Chandler sees this as Joey turning into a woman. When he tells Joey that all these things are turning him into a woman, Joey is offended. He tries to get rid of all the "feminine" things so that his masculinity will not be threatened. At the same time, Chandler makes poutpouri with Monica and Ross is putting on make-up to try and distract from his bright white teeth, which are so bright because he left the whitening on too long. Chandler says, "Where are all the men??"

This sends the message that men are not supposed to be interested in things like putting cute things around the house and making flower arrangements. When Chandler tells Joey that he is turning into a woman, Joey is offended because that takes away all of his masculinity. Joey tells his roommate that all of the stuff has to go because he his a man and that kind of stuff should not be out in a man's apartment. Deep down, Joey likes all the "girly" things around the house but doesn't want to say so because that would make him less of a man. He ends up putting the stuff in his room so it won't be out in the open and no one will see that he has all this stuff.

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30 Rock

On the latest 30 Rock episode, Elisa wants to talk to Jack about "where their relationship is going". Jack goes to Liz and tells her that Elisa wants to have "woman talk". Liz replys, "Women really suck, don't they?"

This is saying that it is stereotypical for women to want to know exactly where the relationship is going while men would rather not talk about it and let things go on as they are. Women need to know where things stand and where they are going. This also happened in a Friends episode where Ross's girlfriend wants to know where the relationship is going. He sticks a piece of salt water taffy in his mouth in order to buy time to try to think of something to say. Men hate this conversation because they like to live in the moment and not define something.

In the same 30 Rock episode, Elisa bursts into the room where Jack and his business colleauges are trying to sort out a business emergency. One man says, "Who is this woman? Why isn't anyone shutting her up?"

This is sending the messgae that men have more power over women and that they are allowed to say disrespectful comments like that. If a woman had said that about a man, there would be an uproar. When the man says this it is showing that society accepts that men are in control over women and they can get away with making sexist comments like that.